Blog #5 You Can't Count on Me....

I think dependency is a big thing in America. It is seen as a sign of weakness to have to depend on others.  Americans want to do everything for themselves. I think this also goes back to trust. Americans don't trust others very easily as you can see by the security measures we take. We are weary of people around us. The more people we depend on, and the more things we depend on them for, the more ways we can be crushed. This could also have to do with our value of independence. Being independent means relying on only yourself and basically makes being dependent of people seem unhealthy.Personally, I don't view dependency as an unhealthy thing; I depend on my parents for a lot of things. What I do find unhealthy is when people depend on others for certain things that they should be providing for themselves, like confidence, which should come from within. One shouldn't need to feel confident from praise form others or anything like that, because I think that is when he/she becomes vulnerable to getting hurt. So, I ask people for advice and I have many people in my life that make me feel happy but I don't depend on others for most things. I think being emotionally dependent is very different from being dependent on someone else for a living (like with money), though, but either way, I think it is better to not be dependent on others.